Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Changes


I was just thinking, about how much power we give to people. How we allow the words and actions of others control our lives. Like one person can say something to piss us off and it just ruins our whole day. I wonder how long this one person who managed to get us all riled up thought about what they said to you. Probably didn't even think twice wether your feeling were hurt or not. 9 times out of 10 he or she went about the rest of their day and enjoyed it while you or I spent the rest of the day in a bad mood. I know this is a problem I am trying to change for me. Im sure im not the only one who has experienced this thats why Ive used the words we and us and you. I want to have control over how I react to things. I know were all gonna get mad sometimes and with every action there is a reaction..but what I want to change is to just allow myself to be mad for that moment, and once I realized...hey..Im holding on this a little to long..to just let it go. I know its gonna be hard but thats something I will be trying to work on for myself. Also, another thing I want to work on to better myself is to X out talking about people in my journal, basically gossip. I'll mention people if I have something nice to say, other wise..they wont be mentioned. I get so tired every day at work hearing the ladies I work with talk about people. Its an everyday thing and its bad, I mean the things day say is horrible, and I had to stop and think, man am I like that? I dont want to be that type of person. I know how it feels and how it hurts to hear people talking bad about you, and I feel awful myself when I have to listen to people talk badly about people. I just dont want to be that way, I hate listening to it, most days I just tune it out and stay in my own little bubble but somethings you cant help but to hear. Anyway, wish me luck.



7 comments:

MISSY said...

I dwell on stuff too, really bad.

*M*

Emmi said...

I tend to keep rahashing words myself. Sometimes I go crazy or stupid stuff that people say. I guess we all do from time to time.

sober white women said...

I am so with you. Why can't people just be nice. Or just shut up.

We do give other people to much power. the best revenge we can have on someone is to go on with our lives.

Thanks for stopping by. I am adding you to my alerts!

Barb said...

You have a kind heart, honey. You really do. And you're honest with yourself. That makes it easier to change when we're trying to work on changing something about ourselves, something that will enable us to be a better person. I am proud of you and love you a lot.

Diama ~*a.k.a*~ Cherry said...

what you said is true. we give others to much power. I was thinking of how pissed customers make me but now im not letting them control me anymore thanks for this post hun i thought iwas alone.

Tabby said...

Hi Melissa,

For you to realize that it takes more of your own energy to dwell on negative things people say is very smart. You are right they are not thinking about it. You are very sweet just block out those gossiper's at work they obviously only feel better picking other people apart, it takes a bigger person to look inside and see what is wrong with their own self. Hugs!

Lainey Laine said...

Awwwwwww I know exactly what you mean and I am number one dweller!! I wish I wasnt but I am - cant help it - if someone has a grudge against me or a problem - crikey I just cant handle it - I just want everyone to like me - is that too much to ask!! Im with you hun. We cant help it - its being called sensitive and thats not a bad thing. Means you have a good heart and a good heart is hurt easily! Laine xxxx
p.s. Im so sorry I havent visited you!!! I really dont know how to get alerts when people do entries - Im slowly getting round to everyone!!!